Archive for September 17th, 2007
I am counting my blessings as a heterosexual.
Was on the bus today, noticed that there were many not-so-slim girls around me. Well, it was my fortune, cause I was living the reality in reality TV, with TVmobile showing a reality TV programme about housewives and middle-aged women trying to overcome their inner fears, which are as you may have guessed, caused by their fats adipose tissues. So well, while they are not very slim, I was fortunate enough to think along the lines of inner beauty of women (which saved my sanity), cause not many people, or more specifically men, are attracted to the opposite sex anymore. Perhaps, you may have heard of Otto Fong. I quote from http://theonlinecitizen.com
Otto Fong is a playwright, film-maker, engineer and a Science teacher and comic artist. He first discovered his love for drawing while storyboarding for the Beijing Film Factory production of Monkey King. In 2000, he won the 1st and 3rd prize in the first nationwide comic drawing competition, Toon Craze Toon Grace held by the People’s Association.
Talented right? He teaches science in Raffles Instituition, and draws a comic. Like these.
Cool eh? I wish Mrs Loi would draw that for me.
He’s gay. *Gasp*
But do we want to know? No.
Should he publicly confess? Don’t know.
Is he any different from us, whether we know he’s gay a not? I doubt so.
So why confess?
I don’t think he was trying to become more famous or anything, because for someone who can write this.
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Not counting my childhood, I have spent more than twenty years in the professional closet. I am nearing my fourth decade on Earth. While I have had some successes in life, I am not content to be just average. As I have often told my students, “Why be average when you can be your best?”
Do you know what a bonsai tree is? A bonsai tree is an imitation of a real tree. It is kept in a small pot with limited nutrients, trimmed constantly to fit someone else’s whim. It looks like a real tree, except it can’t do many things a real tree can. It cannot provide shelter, it cannot find food on its own; its life and death are totally reliant on its owner. It is the plant version of the 3-inch Chinese bound foot for women: useless and painful.
Being in the closet, pretending to be straight, trimming our true selves to suit the whims and expectations of others, is just like being a human bonsai tree. By staying in the closet, we cannot even hope to be average, much less above and beyond average.
I felt that in order to reach my fullest potential as a useful human being, I must first fully accept myself, and face the world honestly. I have lived long enough to know that what I am is not a disease, an aberration or a mental illness.
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I am not sure if you might agree with him, but I believe that there was no real purpose or target to be achieved in writing an open letter. Was he trying to get people’s support? Educate others that gays are just like us? (I know that) Or was it to just you know, writing on impulse?
He was called forth into RI’s General Office, according to eyewitnesses’ report on theonlinecitizen. Was it really worth it? He championed his cause that being homosexual is as common as a butterfly fluttering in the air, but wow, he may lose his job, he may get unwanted attention and you know, the flooding of responses.
Perhaps, sometimes, voicing out the truth was not such a good idea after all. I believe, he can face the world without confessing.
Being gay is not a disease. Got that straight.
